"Emotional Intelligence" and the PUA... internal workings..
"Little God" talks about points from Daniel Golemans book "Emotional Intelligence" and how our EQ not IQ determines how we react and act to things... and how it affects a PUA...
http://www.fastseduction.com/masf/34/191739/
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Little God danleuman@hotmail.com(first login: November, 15, 2004 02:30 AM)
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Sunday, November 28, 2004 01:58 AM
Note to Formhandle: I wrote this mostly for my own benefit, so feel free to delete it if it violates any of the forum rules.
It’ll be 19 sleeps until I can get back to Perth and sarge, yet I think about PU (a.k.a.: SEX!) so much that I can’t sleep. So I went through my bookshelf and tried to link some of the memes I’d picked up to the stuff I’d read on mASF. One of the things I learned at teacher’s college is that you learn more by doing/analyzing (and patching new ideas into your existing schema), than through just reading, so this is my excuse for blatant, self-indulgent KJ’ing.
BTW, any RAFC’s or PUA’s in Perth wanna induct a newbie? E-mail me!
Okay: Topic for tonight – Emotional Intelligence and the PUA. Disclaimer: I know NOTHING. So I just plagiarize EVERYTHING.
Emotional Intelligence is important for PUA’s, depending on your approach to this fine sport. For the uninitiated, EQ is a measure of how aware you are of your own emotions (a.k.a.: states). Being aware allows you to manage and manipulate your own emotions. Having high EQ also means being aware of the emotions of other people, and then being able to manage/manipulate them. If you want to learn more, the book is Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. In this post, I’ll just discuss some things I found interesting.
EMOTIONSWe are the descendents of Neanderthals living in a Picasso Carnival. Life is noisy, stressful, varied and wonderful. Emotions are normal, and make life what it is, but we don’t want them controlling us. Women tend to be more emotionally sensitive than men, and that is why some PUA’s have more success when they focus on manipulating the emotions in women. At the same time, some PUA’s have more success when they are able to control their OWN emotions in the face of social pressure.
No matter how analytical a PUA is, you’ll still see that their posts are flavored and guided by their emotions. At the same time, you may also see that they are aware (consciously or unconsciously) of how their state affects their post, and in turn the emotions of the community.
BRIEFLY: HISTORYThe way we evolved, is that we started out with reptilian brains that were designed mostly for basic survival. As our bodies adapted to changing environments, we next developed the mammalian brain (on TOP of the reptilian brain) which utilized emotions/states as a complex systems management device. Only very recently, we’ve developed the Homo Sapiens’ neocortex which when combined with LANGUAGE, allows us to get super-analytical and pick up HOT CHICKS.
The key thing to notice here is that the mammalian brain evolved to SERVE the reptilian brain, and the neocortex evolved to SERVE the earlier brains. That is why when we get emotional (like under social pressure), cognitive parts of our brain tend to shut down. This is why it’s important to INTERNALIZE BL, tonality and canned material.
EQ ASPECT 1: RECOGNIZING EMOTIONSThis is about being able to recognize when you are feeling something like anger, fear, happiness or love. Sounds stupidly simple, but a lot of people will be feeling fear (for example) and their thought process will be like “Holy shit! What do I say now? Eject! Eject!” An alternative is to recognize: “I’m feeling fear”, which is a prerequisite to MANAGING EMOTIONS.
EQ ASPECT 2: MANAGING EMOTIONSContinuing the FEAR example, once you have recognized your emotion, and the effect it is having on your game, you can then anticipate and manage it. As preparation, you could practice and internalize material. You could create anchors for yourself. You could warm yourself up into a stronger state before hitting up a tough set. In game, you could manage your emotion by changing your body movements or thought patterns, asking yourself the right questions (credit: Mr Robbins). For instance, you could focus on TD’s 25 points (slow down your speech, don’t fidget, breathe slower). You could imagine that these girls are your little sisters (ADOPT them if you have to).
EQ ASPECT 3: MOTIVATING ONESELFYou’ve gotta be in it to win it. It is better to have loved and lost… etc.. How well you can manage your emotions will contribute to if you sarge/approach at all, and whether you KEEP sarging after those inevitable shoot-downs and fuck-ups. Motivation is a complex (and fascinating) subject, but here are some quick tips. 1. Get some wings to push or pull you into sets. 2. Have fun! 3. Link what you’re doing to important goals in your life. 4. Link sarging with TOTAL PLEASURE and Not Sarging with UTTER PAIN. 5. Manipulate the variables to aim for Flow State (Read: anything by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi – great stuff).
EQ ASPECT 4: READING EMOTIONS IN OTHERSFor me, this is one of the most fascinating things about PUA. Being able to read subtle body language and sensing the key components of PU: hooking-point, attraction, rapport, ready for venue change, ready for extraction. Reading people around the target: obstacles, the status level and intentions of AMOG’s/AFC’s. What are people feeling and what is your next step? This is mostly calibrated through experience, but once your ability to read emotions is INTERNALIZED, I reckon that’s when the freaky matrix stuff starts to happen.
EQ ASPECT 5: HANDLING RELATIONSHIPS SMOOTHLYThis is about taking a person’s feelings, and changing them. Turning an obstacle into an accomplice. Turning around a closed set. Riding the vibe through to the f-close. Managing relationship expectations so she’ll be your pivot the following night. Making people feel good. I don’t know how to do these things yet, I’ve only read and fantasized about it. Learning how to handle relationships with women is a worthwhile endeavor though, because they make up half the population. And I think you’ll find that you can learn how to manage guys at the same time.
CONCLUSIONThere was a thread I read that argued that intelligence was the most important attribute of a PUA. I totally concur, and I think that this analytical intelligence has contributed to a development of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE in some PUA’s. (Oh wait… I think someone already said that, but in other words. Oh well. Repetition is education and all that jazz.)
I think that’s a great side-effect because there are some fantastic uses for EQ. I used an Authoritative Apology on my sister, and avoided our usual 20 minute “you’re picking on me” debate. I stopped one of my mum’s depressing, circular rants by authoritatively Calling Her On Her Shit. (sadly enough, she had nothing else to talk about without that.)
High EQ means you can have more fun, constructive relationships with everyone you come in contact with, and also that you can push the highs and glide over the lows in your life. And have sex more often! YAY!
http://www.fastseduction.com/masf/34/191739/
topic:
OT: Emotional Intelligence and the PUA (Kinda Long (1 of 1), Read 251 times
board:
>> Off-Topic
from:
Little God danleuman@hotmail.com(first login: November, 15, 2004 02:30 AM)
date:
Sunday, November 28, 2004 01:58 AM
Note to Formhandle: I wrote this mostly for my own benefit, so feel free to delete it if it violates any of the forum rules.
It’ll be 19 sleeps until I can get back to Perth and sarge, yet I think about PU (a.k.a.: SEX!) so much that I can’t sleep. So I went through my bookshelf and tried to link some of the memes I’d picked up to the stuff I’d read on mASF. One of the things I learned at teacher’s college is that you learn more by doing/analyzing (and patching new ideas into your existing schema), than through just reading, so this is my excuse for blatant, self-indulgent KJ’ing.
BTW, any RAFC’s or PUA’s in Perth wanna induct a newbie? E-mail me!
Okay: Topic for tonight – Emotional Intelligence and the PUA. Disclaimer: I know NOTHING. So I just plagiarize EVERYTHING.
Emotional Intelligence is important for PUA’s, depending on your approach to this fine sport. For the uninitiated, EQ is a measure of how aware you are of your own emotions (a.k.a.: states). Being aware allows you to manage and manipulate your own emotions. Having high EQ also means being aware of the emotions of other people, and then being able to manage/manipulate them. If you want to learn more, the book is Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. In this post, I’ll just discuss some things I found interesting.
EMOTIONSWe are the descendents of Neanderthals living in a Picasso Carnival. Life is noisy, stressful, varied and wonderful. Emotions are normal, and make life what it is, but we don’t want them controlling us. Women tend to be more emotionally sensitive than men, and that is why some PUA’s have more success when they focus on manipulating the emotions in women. At the same time, some PUA’s have more success when they are able to control their OWN emotions in the face of social pressure.
No matter how analytical a PUA is, you’ll still see that their posts are flavored and guided by their emotions. At the same time, you may also see that they are aware (consciously or unconsciously) of how their state affects their post, and in turn the emotions of the community.
BRIEFLY: HISTORYThe way we evolved, is that we started out with reptilian brains that were designed mostly for basic survival. As our bodies adapted to changing environments, we next developed the mammalian brain (on TOP of the reptilian brain) which utilized emotions/states as a complex systems management device. Only very recently, we’ve developed the Homo Sapiens’ neocortex which when combined with LANGUAGE, allows us to get super-analytical and pick up HOT CHICKS.
The key thing to notice here is that the mammalian brain evolved to SERVE the reptilian brain, and the neocortex evolved to SERVE the earlier brains. That is why when we get emotional (like under social pressure), cognitive parts of our brain tend to shut down. This is why it’s important to INTERNALIZE BL, tonality and canned material.
EQ ASPECT 1: RECOGNIZING EMOTIONSThis is about being able to recognize when you are feeling something like anger, fear, happiness or love. Sounds stupidly simple, but a lot of people will be feeling fear (for example) and their thought process will be like “Holy shit! What do I say now? Eject! Eject!” An alternative is to recognize: “I’m feeling fear”, which is a prerequisite to MANAGING EMOTIONS.
EQ ASPECT 2: MANAGING EMOTIONSContinuing the FEAR example, once you have recognized your emotion, and the effect it is having on your game, you can then anticipate and manage it. As preparation, you could practice and internalize material. You could create anchors for yourself. You could warm yourself up into a stronger state before hitting up a tough set. In game, you could manage your emotion by changing your body movements or thought patterns, asking yourself the right questions (credit: Mr Robbins). For instance, you could focus on TD’s 25 points (slow down your speech, don’t fidget, breathe slower). You could imagine that these girls are your little sisters (ADOPT them if you have to).
EQ ASPECT 3: MOTIVATING ONESELFYou’ve gotta be in it to win it. It is better to have loved and lost… etc.. How well you can manage your emotions will contribute to if you sarge/approach at all, and whether you KEEP sarging after those inevitable shoot-downs and fuck-ups. Motivation is a complex (and fascinating) subject, but here are some quick tips. 1. Get some wings to push or pull you into sets. 2. Have fun! 3. Link what you’re doing to important goals in your life. 4. Link sarging with TOTAL PLEASURE and Not Sarging with UTTER PAIN. 5. Manipulate the variables to aim for Flow State (Read: anything by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi – great stuff).
EQ ASPECT 4: READING EMOTIONS IN OTHERSFor me, this is one of the most fascinating things about PUA. Being able to read subtle body language and sensing the key components of PU: hooking-point, attraction, rapport, ready for venue change, ready for extraction. Reading people around the target: obstacles, the status level and intentions of AMOG’s/AFC’s. What are people feeling and what is your next step? This is mostly calibrated through experience, but once your ability to read emotions is INTERNALIZED, I reckon that’s when the freaky matrix stuff starts to happen.
EQ ASPECT 5: HANDLING RELATIONSHIPS SMOOTHLYThis is about taking a person’s feelings, and changing them. Turning an obstacle into an accomplice. Turning around a closed set. Riding the vibe through to the f-close. Managing relationship expectations so she’ll be your pivot the following night. Making people feel good. I don’t know how to do these things yet, I’ve only read and fantasized about it. Learning how to handle relationships with women is a worthwhile endeavor though, because they make up half the population. And I think you’ll find that you can learn how to manage guys at the same time.
CONCLUSIONThere was a thread I read that argued that intelligence was the most important attribute of a PUA. I totally concur, and I think that this analytical intelligence has contributed to a development of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE in some PUA’s. (Oh wait… I think someone already said that, but in other words. Oh well. Repetition is education and all that jazz.)
I think that’s a great side-effect because there are some fantastic uses for EQ. I used an Authoritative Apology on my sister, and avoided our usual 20 minute “you’re picking on me” debate. I stopped one of my mum’s depressing, circular rants by authoritatively Calling Her On Her Shit. (sadly enough, she had nothing else to talk about without that.)
High EQ means you can have more fun, constructive relationships with everyone you come in contact with, and also that you can push the highs and glide over the lows in your life. And have sex more often! YAY!
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