Wazzup: On "social circle" penetration by handing off conversational threads & bringing higher sense of ownership

Wazzup: On "social circle" penetration by handing off conversational threads & bringing higher sense of ownership

Absolute Gold!

http://www.indialair.com/viewtopic.php?p=2429#2429

The first thing I do ... I don't know about SC ... is to distort my focus from the HB .... to the whole group. Interact with them crack jokes ie show that I am a social person.


Damn!! SJ, we humans have a tendency to see only the -ve side of things, first thing would be to change that .... the change in state is a good thing atleast ina club as that serves as a pattern interrupt. You can do two things :
a) Introduce your self to the other person (which is my prefered way of doing thing) or
b) wait for the HB to introduce.

Once the formalities are over with ... continue with your conversation ... now you have SP from other ppl and also more attention from the HB. Few, pointers:
1) I always start with ...."What were we talking about" ... this makes the chix think and boom she is back in the state, infact even deeper one at that. [Thought Inducing Anchors - Induction]
2) Involve the other person in the conversation and make the HB tell him/her what both of you were talking about .... now the ownership of the conversation is with HB, so interanlly she is more into you and your story or routine or pattern. Also the other person is more involved as the conversation is coming from the person they know. [Handing off thread and bringing higher sense of owenership - GOLD!]
3) Excuse your self from the group post pleasentaries exchange and them come back, to inter the group. The group will be in deep rapport or rapport .... which you can tap into. [Possible False Time Constraint / Need setup, Time Distortion and "Social Animal" DHVing].


I had posted a FR on the chix I got from a set of friends and also took guys numbers .... that should give you some more pointers.