OR: Almost LRs.. Women & Natural Game
OR: Almost LRs.. Women & Natural Game
They are so ..wierd.. well.. from what I thought they were like. Honestly..
We're just two lost souls
Swimming in a fish bowl,
Year after year,
Running over the same old ground.
What have we found?
The same old fears.
Night 1 -
Essentially I was out with my friends spent time between some walkable places in and around mid-town.
A dinner date / friend of buddy was HB-Boobs who provoked me (not really in terms of attraction) on why I dont drink alcohol. I take that with a smile and apply some counter logic etc and we have a fun back n forth where.. Im relaxed & enjoying the process because I DID NOT CARE TO WIN OVER HER POINT OF VIEW.. WHEREASE SHE DID. An attempt to have a certain outcome comes with one DEPENDENCE.. which is a weakness... Dependence on OUTCOME and hence dependence on that need to be validated.
BE THE PROCESS, ENJOY THE PROCESS.. DONT THINK ABOUT THE RESULT.
As a reason of those arguments .. several of which she started or she said and I insinuated so that she would reapproach me.. ended up firing her brains.. tease.. hug.. hey chill.. I dont mean anything I say.. I am going to bullshit all night long and I dont want you to take it to the heart..She
d say I was X, Y, Z... (negative adjectives).. Yes, I AM X.. I am complete loser.. with a big smile which says something COMPLETELY opposite. IT SAYS.. YOU CAN SAY WHAT YOU WANT.. I DONT NEED YOUR VALIDATION... MY PERCEPTION OF ME IS BASED ON ME..and IT REMAINS UNSHAKEN..
The second that you become defensive you are killing your strength.
She would get offensive and find that all her 'sticks & stones' would slide over me like a greased monkey.. who smiled..
YOUR OPPONENT WILL GET INTIMIDATED IF ALL THEIR STRIKES CAUSE YOU TO SMILE BACK AT THEM..
Lots of things happened that night.. that are mentionable here.. but Im bored of it..
End of night.. we are heading back to parked cars and she kicks me from behind.. slightly.. I turn smile.. do that again and you are in trouble.
IF YOU TELL YOUR OPPONENT TO NOT DO SOMETHING "OR ELSE" THEY ARE HIGHLY LIKELY TO DO IT.
She does.. and I dont know what kick fired inside. I turn.. and rush towards her (she is with 1 buddy) .. I had no idea what I was going to do.. hit her or what.. but I was in the moment.. I dont know what the people thought I was going to do.. I WAS IN THE MOMENT>.
The HB Boobs is on her back on the floor on the road in the middle of the street in front of popular lounge. I dont know cause I dont remember hitting her.... but that she went on super defensive..I TICKLED HER SENSELESS.. HER BOOBS present but neglected.. but I TICKLED her SENSELESS..
"See what u get".. ok "Say sorry". I dont say sorry etc..
I lift her up with buddy.. LOL!. Start humming my song again.. walk. 5 minutes later she is apologizing etc.. Im saying hey.. I did not take anything she said ..in.. I was bullshittin and there was no offense taken.. She wont stop..feeling guilty.. I grab her nose, her cheeks.. give her a hug..Somewhere in between I might have noticed her NIPPLES ERECT and pressing VISIBLY out of her CLEAVAGE top unlike before and somtime before she had "fuck me" eyes.
We call it a night.
PS: I have some ethics, rules and filters. She could've been an easy target and close.. but there are a lot of reasons why I chose not to. If someone wants to know more.. ask
Night 2 -
I was out with my friends at the I-fest and bumped into a lot of people.. old & new. Lots of all day chilled out interaction with HBs (models..), busting, talking, flirting. When I mentioned that, didnt we also meet at X before.. She's like yeah.. you have my number.. (remembers giving it to me.. me not calling her.. and / or remembering her.. or her name).
ONE THING I HIGHLY ENCOURAGE... BE AROUND A LOT OF WOMEN.. e.g. I used to have a lot of female friends as a part of my circle back in the day and being around them, busting each others chops, sarcastic casual flirting etc, kino etc came easy with them around. An ACQUIRED ART.. versus the need to LEARN IT FROM SCRATCH thingy..
YOU GET DE-SENSITIZED TO THEIR SO CALLED FEMALE POWERS, UNLESS OF COURSE YOU ARE THEIR "AFC" LJBF BOY. BUT YOU KNOW BETTER NOW.
THERE IS NO NEED TO DIS-RESPECT THEM.. SO KEEP THAT BALANCE AT EQUAL.. but with a slight EDGE of UNPREDICTABLE, CRAZY or ECCENTRIC about you. This need not be artificial.. we all have QUIRKS that can be ACCENTUATED..in a POSITIVE FRAME..BINDING THAT YOU ARE TOTALLY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR SKIN...
(NO INSECURITIES STEMMING FROM CERTAIN ATTRIBUTES ABOUT YOURSELF... OR LABELED TO YOU BY OTHERS).
So the day was spent tiring myself out at the fest, talking to a lot of HB Models. Most people will think.. how come you did not # close, game theme etc. Lots of dynamics in play.
When you get into a gathering through a social circle member then you do not want to be "labeled" the guy who always chases ass.
Nothing says NEEDY more than a PUA who does not know when to START and when to STOP. Remember its called pick up ARTIST. An artist is an inspired creative being with urges / wants.. not desperate needs .. to express ones creative desires & outcomes.
So.. I head home.. take some rest and jump back into the scene.. meet with friends at a lounge..
NOTHING IS GOING TO MAKE YOUR NIGHT OR MAKE YOU HAPPIER THAN TO BE OUT WITH A GENUINE SET OF FRIENDS WHO YOU CAN "RELATE WITH" AT SEVERAL LEVELS. THIS IS YOUR STATE ENHANCER, BUILDER and "DONT GIVE A FUCK" enhancer.
I realized somewhere down the line that I did not really want to become a social robot.
I've been very genuinely interested in knowing and deeply connecting with this small bunch of cool people who had the same mindset and we've made great close friends.. really really fast. Its ironic how the world turns.. TO add to it.. I'll give a old phrase..
BROS BEFORE HOS..
To elaborate on it.. Even your female friends are your BROS.. BROS.. encompasses your 'close circle of friends' or those that can be included into that circle. You define it.. people that bring energy into your circle
HOS.. not necessarily bitchy or slutty girls.. HOS.. are anyone who wants drain energy out of you..or ur circle.. (broadly)..
Note: This definition is subject to change upon accumulation of more sleep.
Long story short we merge merge merge into 'circles' where one person knows another, knows someone etc. What I've learnt is, this can be applied to "known circles with gatekeepers" or "unknown circles with gatekeepers" or others that fall in the middle. To REALLY LEARN HOW TO DO THIS AT A SUBCONCIOUS LEVEL.. YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO DO IT WITH THE FIRST TYPE.
ONE GREAT THING I HAVE SEEN GOOD PUAs who Ive met in person, talked with a lot, hung out and kept in touch with.. exhibited a great quality I always had from the past. THEY MIX CIRCLES. THEY BRING FRIENDS FROM DIFFERENT GROUPS AND MIX THEM. Asian Playboy, Prophet & the DALLAS LAIR guys do a great job of this.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH US? ------- WE SHOULD ADDRESS THIS.
Chill at venue 1. Move to party at venue 2. Kick back relax etc. A lot of people pick on my 'water drinking' / non alcohol and provides room for conflict building (friendly.. please). Brings out another set of areas where you can chat with people. But, that gets people talking to you. Its invisible PEACOCKING.. LOL!. wierd..
So on the floor with people.. these HBs start getting active about 'molesting' a buddy and then me. Butt grabbing, Abs checking etc. I am like dont bring the monster inside me out. It begins to HAPPEN. They are comfortable enough to do crazy shit to us..guys.. so we raise the bar..
Pick up women "literally" from the floor, cave man style, butt slaps, butt pinches.. (If you cant handle this) even with some of the guys (close buddies). Acting like I was gay/bisexual and then taking advantage of that 'sexual' factor to kino and chill. But all this was subconcious.. NOT TRIED. IT JUST HAPPENED. NOW ITS AN ACTIVE JOKE.
The most atrocious was me "grinding this HB and at one point literally grabbing her butt as she was behind me and lifting her of the floor". I WAS LIKE... WHAT THE FUCK AM I DOING. I TELL MY BUDDIES.. WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON.
Go to after party venue 2. No dice.. child squander try to bribe our way in. Same with venue 3.
Decide to take the party to a buddies place and things just begin to amplify. Sexual jokes and innuendos.. left, right & center. Crazy partying etc.
Calibrate what you say.. but more importanly SAY WHAT YOU SAY.. WITH TOTAL CONVICTION.. and NO EXPECTED RESPONSE.. VALIDATION OR APPROVAL. Some of this may go beyond the EDGE and fall into a 'WIERD' zone at times, but like any standup comedian.. LEARN TO MOVE ON WITH COURTESY LAUGHTER..
BOTTOM LINE.... BE IN THE MOMENT.
Long story short.. at one point I am dancing with this HB. She'd go grind with a buddy then would change to me.. at one point in a 3 level sanwich of 3 guys n girls (alternating) she might have felt me hard and went ahead to give "more". Later and kinoing her back on the couch for several songs.. BACK, SHOULDERS, ARMS etc. .. all with my eyes closed. Just lost in the moment.
I knew that I could kiss her make out and what not.. in terms of her "feelings". But, I did not feel CONGRUENT about where my INTENTIONS stood at that point. Also, I was afraid of going any further in front of my friends. UNCOMFORTABLE. But, did not leave my chilled out state. I did smell her hair several times.. caressed her neck & ears... back massage..
I had not connected with her, established a rapport with her at that point.. But, I knew that if I did begin that.. she was not going ANYWHERE.. But, my own INTENTIONS needed some unwinding.. All I had to do was start my JUGGLER STYLE in the moment vibing.. and she was already like putty in my hands.. what would be next...... (Although at that time everyone had moved away leaving us on the couch.. Also, she possibly might have some ASD.. but in some way seemed like everyone approved)
She did ask me how long I had known.. x, y, z and people etc. Needing that comfort, trust factor.. I was honest in my 'short term' but close friendships with some of the people
We defused that.. slowly we called it a night..
The whole night involved a lot of times when I would stay super quiet and listen riff in briefly.. at times lead the convo.. have a 'unaffectedly chilled out state & frame'. This is very very alpha and powerful. I can not even begin to tell you. Times of philosophical and spiritual conversation and times of STUPID conversation.
But, nothing was forced.. nothing was orchestrated, not was planned. No active thoughts.. or being in ones head.
WHERE DOES THIS GO..... WELL THIS IS PART OF THE PROCESS OF NATURALIZING MY GAME.. TO THE POINT I NEVER THINK..
WILL IT HELP MY WITH COLD APPROACHES.. I AM SURE IT WILL..
WILL IT HELP MY FEAR OF DOING KINO.. HELL YEAH IT WILL..
WILL IT HELP MY FRAME RESILIENCE.. I CANT EVEN BEGIN TO TELL..
NATURALIZE YOUR GAME THE SOONER YOU CAN. THERE IS NO SUBSTITUTE TO KNOW THAT ITS NOT THE GAME.. BUT ITS YOU .. THAT WILL BUILD INNER GAME, CONFIDENCE & POWER.. OR the power will always be confined to some other "element" of your so called arsenal.
FOR THE MOST POWERFUL WARRIORS ITS THEIR INNER SELF THAT MAKES THEM GREAT.. NOT THE WEAPONS .. IF THEY GIVE "CREDIT" TO THE WEAPONS THEN IF A WEAPON IS LOST OR BROKEN IN BATTLE THEIR FAITH IN THEMSELVES SHALL BE SHATTERED.
RECALLED REFERENCES:
Wish You Were Here (Waters, Gilmour) 5:17
So, so you think you can tell
Heaven from Hell,
Blue skys from pain.
Can you tell a green field
From a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?
And did they get you to trade
Your heros for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
And did you exchange
A walk on part in the war
For a lead role in a cage?
How I wish, how I wish you were here.
We're just two lost souls
Swimming in a fish bowl,
Year after year,
Running over the same old ground.
What have we found?
The same old fears.
Wish you were here.
They are so ..wierd.. well.. from what I thought they were like. Honestly..
We're just two lost souls
Swimming in a fish bowl,
Year after year,
Running over the same old ground.
What have we found?
The same old fears.
Night 1 -
Essentially I was out with my friends spent time between some walkable places in and around mid-town.
A dinner date / friend of buddy was HB-Boobs who provoked me (not really in terms of attraction) on why I dont drink alcohol. I take that with a smile and apply some counter logic etc and we have a fun back n forth where.. Im relaxed & enjoying the process because I DID NOT CARE TO WIN OVER HER POINT OF VIEW.. WHEREASE SHE DID. An attempt to have a certain outcome comes with one DEPENDENCE.. which is a weakness... Dependence on OUTCOME and hence dependence on that need to be validated.
BE THE PROCESS, ENJOY THE PROCESS.. DONT THINK ABOUT THE RESULT.
As a reason of those arguments .. several of which she started or she said and I insinuated so that she would reapproach me.. ended up firing her brains.. tease.. hug.. hey chill.. I dont mean anything I say.. I am going to bullshit all night long and I dont want you to take it to the heart..She
d say I was X, Y, Z... (negative adjectives).. Yes, I AM X.. I am complete loser.. with a big smile which says something COMPLETELY opposite. IT SAYS.. YOU CAN SAY WHAT YOU WANT.. I DONT NEED YOUR VALIDATION... MY PERCEPTION OF ME IS BASED ON ME..and IT REMAINS UNSHAKEN..
The second that you become defensive you are killing your strength.
She would get offensive and find that all her 'sticks & stones' would slide over me like a greased monkey.. who smiled..
YOUR OPPONENT WILL GET INTIMIDATED IF ALL THEIR STRIKES CAUSE YOU TO SMILE BACK AT THEM..
Lots of things happened that night.. that are mentionable here.. but Im bored of it..
End of night.. we are heading back to parked cars and she kicks me from behind.. slightly.. I turn smile.. do that again and you are in trouble.
IF YOU TELL YOUR OPPONENT TO NOT DO SOMETHING "OR ELSE" THEY ARE HIGHLY LIKELY TO DO IT.
She does.. and I dont know what kick fired inside. I turn.. and rush towards her (she is with 1 buddy) .. I had no idea what I was going to do.. hit her or what.. but I was in the moment.. I dont know what the people thought I was going to do.. I WAS IN THE MOMENT>.
The HB Boobs is on her back on the floor on the road in the middle of the street in front of popular lounge. I dont know cause I dont remember hitting her.... but that she went on super defensive..I TICKLED HER SENSELESS.. HER BOOBS present but neglected.. but I TICKLED her SENSELESS..
"See what u get".. ok "Say sorry". I dont say sorry etc..
I lift her up with buddy.. LOL!. Start humming my song again.. walk. 5 minutes later she is apologizing etc.. Im saying hey.. I did not take anything she said ..in.. I was bullshittin and there was no offense taken.. She wont stop..feeling guilty.. I grab her nose, her cheeks.. give her a hug..Somewhere in between I might have noticed her NIPPLES ERECT and pressing VISIBLY out of her CLEAVAGE top unlike before and somtime before she had "fuck me" eyes.
We call it a night.
PS: I have some ethics, rules and filters. She could've been an easy target and close.. but there are a lot of reasons why I chose not to. If someone wants to know more.. ask
Night 2 -
I was out with my friends at the I-fest and bumped into a lot of people.. old & new. Lots of all day chilled out interaction with HBs (models..), busting, talking, flirting. When I mentioned that, didnt we also meet at X before.. She's like yeah.. you have my number.. (remembers giving it to me.. me not calling her.. and / or remembering her.. or her name).
ONE THING I HIGHLY ENCOURAGE... BE AROUND A LOT OF WOMEN.. e.g. I used to have a lot of female friends as a part of my circle back in the day and being around them, busting each others chops, sarcastic casual flirting etc, kino etc came easy with them around. An ACQUIRED ART.. versus the need to LEARN IT FROM SCRATCH thingy..
YOU GET DE-SENSITIZED TO THEIR SO CALLED FEMALE POWERS, UNLESS OF COURSE YOU ARE THEIR "AFC" LJBF BOY. BUT YOU KNOW BETTER NOW.
THERE IS NO NEED TO DIS-RESPECT THEM.. SO KEEP THAT BALANCE AT EQUAL.. but with a slight EDGE of UNPREDICTABLE, CRAZY or ECCENTRIC about you. This need not be artificial.. we all have QUIRKS that can be ACCENTUATED..in a POSITIVE FRAME..BINDING THAT YOU ARE TOTALLY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR SKIN...
(NO INSECURITIES STEMMING FROM CERTAIN ATTRIBUTES ABOUT YOURSELF... OR LABELED TO YOU BY OTHERS).
So the day was spent tiring myself out at the fest, talking to a lot of HB Models. Most people will think.. how come you did not # close, game theme etc. Lots of dynamics in play.
When you get into a gathering through a social circle member then you do not want to be "labeled" the guy who always chases ass.
Nothing says NEEDY more than a PUA who does not know when to START and when to STOP. Remember its called pick up ARTIST. An artist is an inspired creative being with urges / wants.. not desperate needs .. to express ones creative desires & outcomes.
So.. I head home.. take some rest and jump back into the scene.. meet with friends at a lounge..
NOTHING IS GOING TO MAKE YOUR NIGHT OR MAKE YOU HAPPIER THAN TO BE OUT WITH A GENUINE SET OF FRIENDS WHO YOU CAN "RELATE WITH" AT SEVERAL LEVELS. THIS IS YOUR STATE ENHANCER, BUILDER and "DONT GIVE A FUCK" enhancer.
I realized somewhere down the line that I did not really want to become a social robot.
I've been very genuinely interested in knowing and deeply connecting with this small bunch of cool people who had the same mindset and we've made great close friends.. really really fast. Its ironic how the world turns.. TO add to it.. I'll give a old phrase..
BROS BEFORE HOS..
To elaborate on it.. Even your female friends are your BROS.. BROS.. encompasses your 'close circle of friends' or those that can be included into that circle. You define it.. people that bring energy into your circle
HOS.. not necessarily bitchy or slutty girls.. HOS.. are anyone who wants drain energy out of you..or ur circle.. (broadly)..
Note: This definition is subject to change upon accumulation of more sleep.
Long story short we merge merge merge into 'circles' where one person knows another, knows someone etc. What I've learnt is, this can be applied to "known circles with gatekeepers" or "unknown circles with gatekeepers" or others that fall in the middle. To REALLY LEARN HOW TO DO THIS AT A SUBCONCIOUS LEVEL.. YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO DO IT WITH THE FIRST TYPE.
ONE GREAT THING I HAVE SEEN GOOD PUAs who Ive met in person, talked with a lot, hung out and kept in touch with.. exhibited a great quality I always had from the past. THEY MIX CIRCLES. THEY BRING FRIENDS FROM DIFFERENT GROUPS AND MIX THEM. Asian Playboy, Prophet & the DALLAS LAIR guys do a great job of this.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH US? ------- WE SHOULD ADDRESS THIS.
Chill at venue 1. Move to party at venue 2. Kick back relax etc. A lot of people pick on my 'water drinking' / non alcohol and provides room for conflict building (friendly.. please). Brings out another set of areas where you can chat with people. But, that gets people talking to you. Its invisible PEACOCKING.. LOL!. wierd..
So on the floor with people.. these HBs start getting active about 'molesting' a buddy and then me. Butt grabbing, Abs checking etc. I am like dont bring the monster inside me out. It begins to HAPPEN. They are comfortable enough to do crazy shit to us..guys.. so we raise the bar..
Pick up women "literally" from the floor, cave man style, butt slaps, butt pinches.. (If you cant handle this) even with some of the guys (close buddies). Acting like I was gay/bisexual and then taking advantage of that 'sexual' factor to kino and chill. But all this was subconcious.. NOT TRIED. IT JUST HAPPENED. NOW ITS AN ACTIVE JOKE.
The most atrocious was me "grinding this HB and at one point literally grabbing her butt as she was behind me and lifting her of the floor". I WAS LIKE... WHAT THE FUCK AM I DOING. I TELL MY BUDDIES.. WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON.
Go to after party venue 2. No dice.. child squander try to bribe our way in. Same with venue 3.
Decide to take the party to a buddies place and things just begin to amplify. Sexual jokes and innuendos.. left, right & center. Crazy partying etc.
Calibrate what you say.. but more importanly SAY WHAT YOU SAY.. WITH TOTAL CONVICTION.. and NO EXPECTED RESPONSE.. VALIDATION OR APPROVAL. Some of this may go beyond the EDGE and fall into a 'WIERD' zone at times, but like any standup comedian.. LEARN TO MOVE ON WITH COURTESY LAUGHTER..
BOTTOM LINE.... BE IN THE MOMENT.
Long story short.. at one point I am dancing with this HB. She'd go grind with a buddy then would change to me.. at one point in a 3 level sanwich of 3 guys n girls (alternating) she might have felt me hard and went ahead to give "more". Later and kinoing her back on the couch for several songs.. BACK, SHOULDERS, ARMS etc. .. all with my eyes closed. Just lost in the moment.
I knew that I could kiss her make out and what not.. in terms of her "feelings". But, I did not feel CONGRUENT about where my INTENTIONS stood at that point. Also, I was afraid of going any further in front of my friends. UNCOMFORTABLE. But, did not leave my chilled out state. I did smell her hair several times.. caressed her neck & ears... back massage..
I had not connected with her, established a rapport with her at that point.. But, I knew that if I did begin that.. she was not going ANYWHERE.. But, my own INTENTIONS needed some unwinding.. All I had to do was start my JUGGLER STYLE in the moment vibing.. and she was already like putty in my hands.. what would be next...... (Although at that time everyone had moved away leaving us on the couch.. Also, she possibly might have some ASD.. but in some way seemed like everyone approved)
She did ask me how long I had known.. x, y, z and people etc. Needing that comfort, trust factor.. I was honest in my 'short term' but close friendships with some of the people
We defused that.. slowly we called it a night..
The whole night involved a lot of times when I would stay super quiet and listen riff in briefly.. at times lead the convo.. have a 'unaffectedly chilled out state & frame'. This is very very alpha and powerful. I can not even begin to tell you. Times of philosophical and spiritual conversation and times of STUPID conversation.
But, nothing was forced.. nothing was orchestrated, not was planned. No active thoughts.. or being in ones head.
WHERE DOES THIS GO..... WELL THIS IS PART OF THE PROCESS OF NATURALIZING MY GAME.. TO THE POINT I NEVER THINK..
WILL IT HELP MY WITH COLD APPROACHES.. I AM SURE IT WILL..
WILL IT HELP MY FEAR OF DOING KINO.. HELL YEAH IT WILL..
WILL IT HELP MY FRAME RESILIENCE.. I CANT EVEN BEGIN TO TELL..
NATURALIZE YOUR GAME THE SOONER YOU CAN. THERE IS NO SUBSTITUTE TO KNOW THAT ITS NOT THE GAME.. BUT ITS YOU .. THAT WILL BUILD INNER GAME, CONFIDENCE & POWER.. OR the power will always be confined to some other "element" of your so called arsenal.
FOR THE MOST POWERFUL WARRIORS ITS THEIR INNER SELF THAT MAKES THEM GREAT.. NOT THE WEAPONS .. IF THEY GIVE "CREDIT" TO THE WEAPONS THEN IF A WEAPON IS LOST OR BROKEN IN BATTLE THEIR FAITH IN THEMSELVES SHALL BE SHATTERED.
RECALLED REFERENCES:
Wish You Were Here (Waters, Gilmour) 5:17
So, so you think you can tell
Heaven from Hell,
Blue skys from pain.
Can you tell a green field
From a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?
And did they get you to trade
Your heros for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
And did you exchange
A walk on part in the war
For a lead role in a cage?
How I wish, how I wish you were here.
We're just two lost souls
Swimming in a fish bowl,
Year after year,
Running over the same old ground.
What have we found?
The same old fears.
Wish you were here.
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